5 Rude things people say to brides (plus response ideas)

5 Rude things people say to brides (plus response ideas)

Sticky, sticky questions! Here’s a bunch of rude things people say to brides. Plus, tips for responding!

Today we’re talking dreaded wedding questions. Brides and grooms get them all the time, but how do you prepare for the rude things people say to brides? Without a heads up, many of these difficult questions can leave you embarrassed or angry.

What you can do is prepare for some of the most uncomfortable and sticky questions now. Then you can decide what to do if you’re faced with any of these rude questions during your engagement.

 

Why do people say rude things to brides?

People LOVE talking about weddings. It is such a special time in life, and there are going to be plenty of people who want to hear details or share their opinions. Most of these people are well-meaning and supportive.

Unfortunately, other times, it might feel like people are getting in your personal bubble. These people are why this list of rude things people say to brides exists. Some people are naturally more nosy or inconsiderate, and even the most well-wishing people can cross the line when showing interest. If this is the case, you may get asked one of these jaw-dropping questions below.

Rude things people say to brides

1. Are you ready for it?

This is a common one from unmarried people. This may be a projection of their fears and nothing else. Perhaps they are not ready for a long-term commitment. Sucks to be them. Lucky to be you. You got engaged. Don’t let them question your preparedness. Instead, you can decide to share how excited you are for your wedding day.

2. Are you having kids?

The moment you get married, people may expect you to make babies right off the bat. Deciding if you to have children and when is solely the concern of the couple. A great way to answer this one is: we’re our own family unit right now. Then ask them to pour you a glass of wine (wink).

3. Are you going to take his name?

This question can be completely awkward if you and your groom have yet to discuss this topic. The person asking this may not realize that there are a lot of reasons you may or may not take the name of your husband, and, you’re not obligated to share any of these reasons with them. This is a good one to figure out in advance.

4. Do you fit in your wedding dress?

There’s so much stress that comes with trying to look good for your big day. The only person who should comment on this subject is the seamstress. If you want to respond, one option is to respond with how beautiful you feel in your dress.

 

5. What are you spending on the wedding?

Oh, finances! What a fun topic to be questioned about!

Wouldn’t they be offended if you asked them a probing financial question? Depending on your comfort level, you may disclose a vendor price here or there.

But, be warned. Going into wedding price details may invite a flurry of follow-up questions. Or people nagging—er—helping you find a “better rate” with a vendor you don’t want.

Planning your wedding is an ideal time to stop disclosing financials with anyone who doesn’t need to know.

However, if you are getting assistance paying for the wedding, those people may feel entitled to know. In this case, decide which details you’ll share BEFORE accepting money. Don’t let anyone use supporting the wedding financially as an entry point to rude wedding questions.

Whew! People can be blunt! 

 

Have a plan to answer the rude things people say to brides…

While you might want to avoid all of these rude questions altogether, that might be impossible. Even the most well-meaning friends and acquaintances may ask you something that oversteps the line.

Instead of freezing up when asked these types of questions, let people know what you’re comfortable discussing. Decide what advice you’d like to hear (and not hear). Also, ask people for help. If your support team knows you will reach out for help when you need it, they might not offer it unsolicited.

This is an emotional and life-changing time in your life. Surround yourself with love and support,and enjoy it to the fullest.

 

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Wedding planning: How to balance an uneven bridal party

Wedding planning: How to balance an uneven bridal party

Figuring out how to balance an uneven bridal party can be frustrating.

Families and friend circles come in all shapes and sizes, which means that you and your future spouse may have an uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Want them all to stand beside you during your wedding ceremony?  Here you’ll find plenty of creative ideas to make your wedding party work.

How to balance an uneven bridal party

Space out the bridal party in photos

This is a tip for bridal party shots. Your photographer can help you use the space to set up shots that don’t highlight the uneven bridal party. The men and women can spread out evenly across the scene to make it less obvious.

Decide if you want them to double up or walk solo

Rearrange the traditional bridal procession to balance your bridal party. Here are ideas…

  • One bridesmaid can walk with two groomsmen or vice versa
  • Two bridesmaids or two groomsmen can walk together
  • Each bridal party member can walk solo
  • Have someone walk your dog (if they’re invited)

Mix up the ceremony lineup

There is no rulebook that says guys have to be behind the groom and the women behind the bride. Having an uneven number of groomsmen to bridesmaids is less noticeable if you mix them on both sides.

Having an uneven bridal party won’t ruin any pictures. That’s why you hired a professional photographer, right?

Are you worried what people will think if one side of the bridal party is shorter than the other? Guests understand. Families come in different sizes. And so do friend circles.

In modern weddings, the focus is more on the aesthetics and overall feeling than being matchy-matchy. Having exact numbers of groomsmen and bridesmaids isn’t easy. So don’t freak out if you have to balance an uneven bridal party with these tips.

Have an idea to balance an uneven bridal party?

Brides would love to know – do you have a creative solution to balance a bridal party? Share in the comments below.

5 Creative bachelorette party ideas

5 Creative bachelorette party ideas

Were you given the honor to throw a bride-to-be her last night out as a single woman? Need some unforgettable, creative bachelorette party ideas? Here are alternative bachelorette party options for you to throw the best night (or day) ever.

Creative bachelorette party ideas

1. Spa day with the bride to be

Not every bachelorette party is a wild one. If you’re throwing a bachelorette party near the wedding date, a spa date is a great choice. Go for facials, massages, and treatments. Order catering and tea. And splurge on products to help the bride get ready for the wedding.

2. Make lingerie

Think sexy, but not stripper. DIY your own lingerie (or shirts) for a creative bachelorette party activity. This could go in a funny or crafty direction. Use beads, paint, and markers to decorate the lingerie. This can turn into a friendly contest. Pick the top funny or best-designed pieces. Have fun with it!

3. Rent a limo for fun

Book a limo or a party bus. If you’re avoiding the night-life scene, head out on a scavenger hunt or a shopping trip. Limos are so much fun, especially when you are with your girls. Don’t forget to stock it up with the bride’s favorite snacks and drinks.

4. Take your bride down memory lane

How about blending some fun and adventure with nostalgia? Create a retro theme for the day. Start from junior or high school. Take her to her favorite spots. Play her a mix of her favorite tunes. Take out a stash of old photos to reminisce. Eat sushi. Then go for ice cream. Let your bride soak up all the girl time before getting hitched.

5. Hire a private chef, or take a class

Help the bride to be get acquainted with tools on her registry. If your friend is a foodie, this is a fantastic activity. Book a private chef to make a special meal and give a cooking lesson. The bride can pick up a relaxing new skill while learning a recipe to impress her groom. Win-win.

What are your favorite non traditional bachelorette party ideas?

Help a future bride out. Share your thoughts on creative bachelorette party ideas below.

Party like a Gatsby with these art deco party supplies

Party like a Gatsby with these art deco party supplies

Throwing a roaring twenties event? Here are art deco party supplies you’ll need to pull it off. But before we dive into cute photobooth props, napkins and decorations for an art deco wedding or event, let’s talk style…

Pull off a ROARING TWENTIES! See decorations, art deco party supplies, costumes, accessories and dresses with the Gatsby 20s theme. Great for parties!

Dress styles for an art deco party

To dress the part, you’ll need fringe, feathers and pearls. Cocktail dresses from those days had lots of movement. Women wore hair pieces. Some were very elaborate with feathers. And the flapper look isn’t complete without long strings of pearls.

Pull off a roaring twenties theme! See decorations, art deco party supplies, costumes, accessories and dresses with the Gatsby 20s theme. Great for parties!

Here’s a list of art deco party supplies. Affiliate links are included.

Happy shopping!

Art deco party supplies & Outfits

Rhinestone flapper mask
Pop on this rhinestone flapper mask for an instant transformation

20s Gatsby flapper gold headband
Here’s an accessory for any dress. This 20s Gatsby flapper gold headband has a feather and sequin band. Instant glam.

1920s flapper pearl headpiece
This more understated art deco 1920s flapper pearl headpiece is elegant and understated

Art deco hair comb
Accessorize your hair with statement pieces like this art deco hair comb.

Black tissue paper pom poms
These black tissue paper pom poms are for decorating entrances, food tables, and backdrops.

Art deco napkins
Aren’t these the cutest art deco napkins?

Art Deco Dessert Plates
And to match… Art Deco Dessert Plates.

Roaring twenties photo props
Create a space for a backdrop and store these roaring twenties photo props in a vase nearby.

Great Gatsby selfie frame
Hang a Great Gatsby selfie frame from a tree for an outdoor party, or on a stand for an indoor selfie station.

Party like a gatsby sign
A totally on-theme party like a gatsby sign.

Roaring 20s yard signs
Throwing an outdoor party? These roaring 20s yard signs will do the trick.

Art deco guest book
Planning an event to remember? This art deco guest book is perfect for weddings and other big occasions.

1920s inspired cupcake wrappers
Dec out a dessert tray with these 1920s inspired cupcake wrappers.

Gatsby 20s door cover
This Gatsby 20s door cover is perfect for a front door or powder room.

Wedding help: How to keep a wedding reception small

Wedding help: How to keep a wedding reception small

Looking for ways to keep a wedding reception small? Here are ways to reduce your wedding guest size to have a small reception of 50 people, or whatever number you’re targeting.

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Invite only VIPs

This means you may not invite people to your wedding, even if they invited you to theirs. One way to figure out your VIPs is to think about who you’ve spoken to in the last 3 / 5 / 10 years. Because usually, the most important ones are still in touch.

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Limit kids to keep the wedding small

While some married couples may only know a few kids, others have family and friends with lots of small children. For different reasons, it may make sense to find ways to limit the number of kids. Other options include inviting kids that meet an age requirement (like 12+). Or only kids who are part of the bridal party (niece / nephew).

Limit plus ones for wedding guests

For couples with friends still in the dating scene, limiting +1s for guests can help. It’s all about deciding where your cutoff is. Do you only want people to come who are in an established relationship? What if you haven’t met their significant other?

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Write “requests” aka guest restrictions on the wedding RSVP card

Don’t forget to make any restrictions on adding guests or bringing kids clear on the invites. Remind people on your wedding website, too.

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Warning if you want to keep a wedding reception small

There are different ways to narrow a wedding guest list to 50 people – or whatever desired number you have. But don’t be surprised if people still create their own +1 or ask to include their children. Or mom. Or neighbor. Sometimes people need a reminder that it’s your day and your choice.

Is wedding planning stressful? See these tips for balancing work and wedding planning.

Wedding help: How to balance work and wedding planning

Wedding help: How to balance work and wedding planning

Congratulations for finding a perfect partner. It is an exciting time. But, it is completely normal if you feel stressed trying to balance work and wedding planning.

No need to worry, you are not the only one!

Even wedding planners hire wedding planners.

It can be overwhelming to add in the wedding checklist tasks to an already busy life. Plus, every job goes through busy seasons. You’re bound to feel overwhelmed from time to time while planning your wedding.

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How to balance work and wedding planning

If you’re hands-on with wedding planning, you may want to sneak wedding planning time in at work. So how can you stay committed to your job while tackling your wedding to-do list?

Yes. You can balance work while planning a wedding. The key is to build it into your routine. Mini 5-10 minute investments in wedding planning each day will help you make progress. Plus, there are simple ways to get organized and ask people for help.

Read on for tips that will help you balance your full time job with wedding planning.

Take breaks

Don’t skip lunch breaks. Even if you don’t often take a full hour, this is a busy time in your life. Take lunch breaks.

In some cases, you might have to switch up your routine. If you usually eat at your desk while working, coworkers or “urgent” emails may interrupt you from quality planning time during lunch.

Consider changing up your lunch break location. Go to a coffee shop to draft your invitations. Visit a store with bridal magazines to find your favorite wedding dress designers.

Prioritize

One easy way to determine your priorities is to follow a wedding planning timeline list. Decide the most significant things you need to do each week to stay on track. And if any part of planning

Use a free calendar + make a schedule

Does balancing work and wedding planning feel like it’s taking over your life? It can be stressful looking at a full calendar. It might be too much to keep one calendar to hold everything for work, personal, and wedding planning priorities.

Here’s a solution for staying on top of wedding deadlines. Use a calendar for only wedding assignments. Leave it in a place you check at the same time each day.

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Organize yourself on Pinterest

Make the most of down time at work with Pinterest. Start Pinterest boards for each thing you need to research. You can keep them private or share them with your bridal party. Post your favorite wedding dresses, floral arrangements, bridesmaid dresses, etc. Pin to these boards over time so you have a catalog of ideas available so you can make wedding decisions.

This is helpful for brides still deciding their theme and colors and overall wedding preferences. Pinning for a few minutes a day will help reveal your style and preferences. Here’s the Garden Wedding Pinterest board that collected all of my wedding inspo. (I still love looking and pinning to that board)

Having individual boards makes it easier to work with vendors, too. Share boards with florists, dress consultants, makeup artists and manicurists.

Attend wedding expos

Find wedding expos in your area to save time wedding planning. At a typical expo, you can sample many different wedding cakes and caterers and sign up for registries at Macy’s and Bed Bath Beyond.

Over-communicate

Planning a wedding tests your ability to ask for help when you need it. It requires you to be very, very communicative during the whole process. The more you can rely on others, the less stressed you’ll be. People in your life most likely want to help. Your job is to utilize them. Don’t know what you need help with? Tell them what’s next up on your wedding planning list and see if they have any ideas. And just because you take opinions, don’t feel required to use them.

Don’t underestimate wedding planning fatigue. Even the most creative people can get burnt out.

Make lots of dates while wedding planning

Remember why you said “Yes”.

Engaged life has to be more than work and wedding planning. Take a break from all the planning and schedule regular and fun couples activities. Make sure you have plenty of free time to enjoy engaged life. And attend plenty of cake tastings.

Good luck on your journey to balance work and wedding planning! Make sure to check out the wedding section to get more wedding planning tips.

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